We don’t ignore each other on purpose. We just stop noticing. I built “quiet effort” for that.

I built a dating app first.

It was about accountability, honesty... stuff I thought would help people connect.

But something didn’t sit right.

I kept seeing people leave their relationships… and come back to dating apps again.

Not because they were single.

But because—even in a relationship—they still felt alone.

Like, “I’m doing everything, and they don’t even notice.”

But the truth is… the other person probably feels the same way.

That stuck with me.

I started thinking—maybe the issue isn’t effort.

Maybe we just don’t notice each other anymore.

Not because we don’t care.

But because we’re overloaded. Distracted.

Or maybe… no one ever taught us what to pay attention to.

What does effort even look like? Folding laundry? Staying calm?

Paying bills quietly?

We see it—but our brain doesn’t register it.

So we stop saying thank you.

Not because we’re ungrateful. Just… numb.

So I built this app. It’s called quiet effort.

At first, I made it for couples.

But honestly? The problem shows up in every kind of relationship—families, roommates, close friends.

It doesn’t fix everything.

But it helps people notice the small things…

and say thanks—before it’s too late.